We Wear Short Shorts

Over the past five years, I have done a lot of changing in a lot of areas of my life. One area, which I am still by no means perfect in, I changed a lot is the way I dressed. I knew it wasn't good to dress so scandalous, but being the stubborn girl I was, I wore short skirts and other things I would probably not wear today.

I think getting married helped me finally open my eyes a lot. Well maybe it wasn't getting married, maybe it was just meeting my Jeffy. Let me preface all this by saying, I am a very lucky woman to be married to a man who I can trust at all times. However, by meeting him, I realized why it was important to dress more conservatively than I did when I was younger. I did not realize when I was living in my own little selfish world that not only may I be causing guys my age to struggle, but the way I dressed may cause any man anywhere to struggle. After meeting Jeffy, I didn't want to even see girls in public wearing shorts where the longest part of them are the pockets hanging out the bottom. It would disgust me to think the way other girls we don't know walking around in public could cause men, not just Jeffy, but other married men, and daddies everywhere to struggle.

Tonight, we played cards with some friends in Starbucks. A girl walked in with a super short skirt on. I kind of grumbled, but I got over it. Until I turned around a few minutes later. What I caught a glimpse of should have had a censored sign over it. I mean seriously, is it necessary to share your goodies with everyone? Uhhh no. So because five years ago that girl could have been me, I know I owe some apologies. (Not that all the people I owe apologies to will ever read this, but...) To the men, I may have caused to struggle because of how I dressed, I am so sorry. And to all the wives, girlfriends, or mothers of any men I caused to stumble because of how I dressed, I am also sorry to you too.

As we left Starbucks, I was ranting to Jeff. He asked me what the problem was if I trust him. It made me think, I don't really know. It is just annoying. So I figured this was as good a place to vent as any! :)

Reacting to Public Apologies

I love sports. Over the past year and a half, I have especially grown to love golf. In learning to like golf, I, like many others, began to respect and admire Tiger Woods. So when I saw the news starting on black friday, I began to feel disappointment towards him, until today.

When I was in high school, I made some big mistakes. Part of dealing with those consequences was standing in front of my church and asking for forgiveness for my inappropriate actions. For anyone who has ever had to give a public apology, they know it is a very humbling experience. An experience not easily forgotten and teaching humility and character.

Over the years, I have had many people I look up to make irresponsible decisions in the public eye. I watched as Dana Jacobson had to issue a similar statement. And also Alex Rodriguez. After these figures issue a public response to their actions, the media reacts. Sometimes in a positive way, and sometimes in a negative way.

As a Christian and as someone who has been in the same position, I believe when someone has the courage to stand up and admit their mistakes, they deserve public forgiveness. It is not my place to decide whether anything said was sincere or not, it is only my place to not hold a grudge. Everyone makes mistakes. In our eyes, some mistakes are bigger than others. Our eyes, however, are not perfect. The reality is all sin is the same in God's eyes.

When a public apology is made, set aside all personal judgements and simply forgive. In the event, you, for some strange reason, end up on the other side of this situation, you would want the same courtesy extended to you. So to Dana Jacobson, Alex Rodriguez, and now Tiger Woods, I appreciate your apology. And I forgive you (even if you don't need or want my forgiveness). And I thank you for standing up in front of the world to admit your mistake and seek out forgivess.